Are you choosing "one word" for 2013?
"Forget New Year’s Resolutions. Scrap that long list of goals you won’t remember three weeks from now anyway. Choose just one word. One word that sums up who you want to be or how you want to live. One word that you can focus on every day, all year long."
Over the past week, I've given a lot of thought to my word. Two verbs arm wrestled for the top spot....and this one won:
Thank you, Melanie! Go to OnlyOneBreath to find out more! |
Yes, I talk a lot, but that's not why I chose listen as my word. It's not meant to be an opposite, a turning around, of a behavior. Rather, it's a discipline that I want to acquire, in a new way. I think most of my friends and family members would say that I'm a good listener. And my students know that I will listen to any song, any silly story, any sharing of the heart.
My problem? I want to move in and fill the uncomfortable spaces of a conversation with words. Words of comfort, guidance, instruction, confession, defense, inquiry. Good therapists (isn't that what we are at times?) know that the most real stuff is shared when they stay quiet for just.one.more.minute.
When we listen.
And in those moments of sharing,
we learn more about each other.
we learn more about each other.